Cyber-ratchet

cyberbullying, drama, social media, profanity, disputes, family feuds, parenting

There’s no greater setting to watch a series of unfiltered drama, than the grimy ones we witness in the front of our computer screens. These series aren’t in comparison to ordinary casts of Hope and Bo in Days of Our Lives. Perhaps, they’re the raw outbursts of adults arguing on social media with flinging spears of profane U’s, and K’s everywhere.You know what I’m talking about. When it comes to pipeline services (‘auga o le paipa), everyone and their mama wants their fix on being faikala (nosey) even intentionally trying to veer from the inevitable.

If you have yet to experience what I’m talking about particularly, then your friend’s list is blessed and spared from such drivel. Oftentimes, I am ensnared in as a silent audience whilst reading vulgar statuses, family feuds and social media confrontations through quotidian feeds and tweets.You can’t dodge anything as long as it’s viral on a news feed.Of course not, because they’re beaming statuses revealing toxic information and defamation of total strangers we don’t know, yet we wake up wondering, “Oh my word, what in the world?”.

Profanities exposed on these statuses are sometimes extremely repulsive that, at times,  it was almost impossible to not contest. I caught myself nearly intervening through an attempt to raise a white flag with emoticons:Stop it  or You’re a much better person than that, come on now! But I cease easily, considering the fact that it doesn’t make a difference for grown adults. It’s delightful to see people getting along, but it’s just sad to see belittling, name-calling and names exposed publicly before those who do not have the right to know these things about others.

One discouraging view was witnessing the same people who recently tagged occasions, events, travels and pictures among each other, winding up in sudden fallouts on social media.Between that and family, I don’t know what’s worst. But nevertheless, it’s all gravy and dandy in the beginning until a status heats up into a stirring cast of the Housewives of Atlanta.

People who called each other sissys and friends yesterday ended up calling each other ratchet bees, husband thieves, money-and-clothes borrowing hizzos the next day.That totally reminds me of this saying, “it’s all shit and giggles until someone giggles and shit.”

Personally, that’s how it all appeals to me, whilst scrolling through my newsfeed every day.When it hits the fan, there’s eff this eff that, in which all parties involved, take turns slandering each other forgetting about families, reverends and children who are on social media, too. People think it’s actually a condescending turnout to be sadistic and toxic, but really, it isn’t. It may seem like a popularity contest to others, but attention can’t seem to add up on the serious effects and disadvantages this may contribute to the goals we wish to see in our younger generations.

A lot of vulgarity posted on social media are possibly motivated by he said/she said rumors. Sporadically, hence our notions to live positively; we still preferably render the upper hand towards what anyone thinks of us, than what we truly know about ourselves. It’s always unnecessary matters people tend to take out of their own hands to try and control.

People are very strong-minded to easily look past many things in life, until they hear petty little gossips from unreliable sources. Apparently, it seems like it takes a while to maintain your peace, but only one second to absolutely “lose your shit,” and destroy everything.  I assume this is mankind algebra with coming of age. I guess people are more prone to react towards something easily via technology, intentionally bullying and threatening people online-forgetting about the lessons and examples we teach and reflect to our younger generations.

I am just as guilty as anyone who has had an online confrontation. There were also times people slandered my name publicly.Yep, I encountered that too, even when I did the right thing.Did I let any of it define me? Absolutely not. But in the heat of the moment, I learned one thing. While I was backfiring with lousy comments, I lacked awareness in realizing that someone was getting a headache watching every spears of U’s and K’s scrolling through their news feeds.

It’s always easy said than done, but lessons can teach us a lot about life, living free and being happy.When we tell our children to be kind, and do good always, we must reflect that too. It is hard to avoid confrontations, because we’re human with emotions and feelings, yet we can all adult well by diffusing matters and approaching with a sense of maturity.

As my mother used to remind me: “E o o le vao,” which means, words have legs, and they are the grapevines that echoes many things. Therefore, always remain cautious and be gentle with your words, because you never know who is eavesdropping or on the other side of the computer screen.

One of the most leading crimes among societies today is cyberbullying. There are many suicides linking to cyberbullying. I think that we can benefit well and save a life from setting a great example for our children on social media.We can narrow the drama through living by the words we love to abide by each day. In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you.

Lynn Alaimalo-Author of Molioleava Books